Many of us spend the majority of our waking time working. We pride ourselves on our work ethic, responsiveness and ability to get the job done. We tell ourselves that we are doing this for our family. After all, our efforts allow us to live in the nice house, drive the nice cars, and provide for our children.
We love our family. We take the family vacation so we can spend time with them and show them how much we love them. We get out of town so we can see new things and give ourselves a break from the office.
And then we cheat.
We keep checking our smart phone to see if anything urgent is going on at the office. We take “brief” phone calls from the office because we don’t want to hold other people up who are trying to get their work done.
Physically, we may be with our family, but our time and attention is back at work. We rationalize that the crisis at the office is urgent, our input is invaluable, and it is only for a little while.
But the message we are sending the most important people in our lives is clear.
Work first; family second.
Don’t cheat your family. Next time you go on vacation, leave the office behind you.
Note: The concept of cheating your family comes from Andy Stanley’s book, Choosing to Cheat.