Last week, a good friend told me, “If I take this job, I know I will be a success. I can do the job, get promoted and earn a lot of money. The problem is I will be miserable working there.”
Isn’t that a curious statement? Can my friend really think he will be successful if he is going to be miserable?
My friend is confused. His challenge is that he is using money as a way to keep score. He imagines that he will be a success by working hard, getting promoted, and most importantly, bringing home a boatload of money.
Even if he is miserable.
A successful life is not about the money you earn. A successful life is about feeling empowered to use all your wealth, not just your money, to create the life you desire. Success is about creating the opportunity to live at the intersection of close meaningful relationships, high-challenge, high-skill activities that engage you, and frequent opportunities to make a difference in the lives of others.
When we define our success solely in financial terms, we lose sight of what really matters in life. And it is impossible to create the life we want if we focus on the wrong destination.