You have a choice. When looking back on your life, you can attack yourself for the mistakes you made, or you can celebrate your progress.
Please don’t misunderstand me. It is certainly advisable to reflect on what you have done and learn from your mistakes. That is how we learn and get better.
Yet all too often, we engage in personal self-attacks. We see ourselves as stupid, undisciplined, and as a failure. When we beat up on ourselves, we feel discouraged, have a hard time seeing new possibilities, and find it challenging to move ahead.
Change your internal dialogue. Substitute self-compassion for self-attack. Talk to yourself as a loving, nurturing parent would talk to a child who had just suffered a setback. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and yes, you too are human.
Celebrate your progress. Reflect on what you have accomplished and what you have learned. Give yourself credit for all the hard work you have done.
Amazingly, when you treat yourself with compassion and celebrate your progress, you will open yourself to exciting new possibilities. Your discouragement will fade away. In its place, you may find you feel confident, energized and empowered to take the next step forward.
Can you celebrate your progress and open your eyes to new possibilities?