One of my favorite people at GV left to take another job. I feel sad. I worked with her for 15 years, and watched her mature and grow. She is a bright, impeccably honest, passionate person. The type of person who doesn’t wait to be told what to do. She looks for challenges that are holding the company back, and applies her immense talents to devising and implementing a solution to make things better.
There is a piece of me that wanted to have a little temper tantrum. How could you leave to work for a competitor after all we have done for you? Don’t you appreciate us? Don’t you love us?
The truth, however, is that she does love and appreciate us, just as we love and appreciate her. She is not leaving us; she is moving ahead to the next challenge on her life journey. She is walking her own path, as each of us must do.
Each of us must say goodbye to people we love as they move ahead with their lives. We don’t get to decide whether people in our lives stay or go, but we do get to choose how we say goodbye. We can have a temper tantrum and wrap ourselves in righteous indignation or self-centered sorrow. Or we can choose to be grateful for our time together, wish them well with all our heart, and say goodbye with love.