Strong at the Broken Places

By David Geller   |   June 23, 2015

Life is not always easy. We all suffer tough times because loss is a part of life. The challenge is, as Hemingway said, to become “strong at the broken places.”1

Being strong at the broken places doesn’t mean our next loss won’t hurt. It will. It doesn’t mean putting on a brave face and projecting to the world that it doesn’t hurt. That’s just being insincere.

You become strong at the broken places when you allow yourself to experience the loss, feel your pain and sadness, and grow stronger from the experience.

When you are strong at the broken places you understand the next time you bear a gut-wrenching loss that you will survive, even thrive over time. When you are strong at the broken places, you allow yourself to be vulnerable and to connect with others who are working through their own tough times. As you grieve the loss, you move from sadness to serenity, and often look to the future with hope.

It’s relatively easy to pretend everything is okay, to numb yourself, and to put on a brave face to the world. The problem is that the pain and sadness don’t diminish over time, and they weigh you down as you try to move ahead with your life.

It takes courage to be strong, to allow yourself to feel your pain, and genuinely to connect with others. Courage that is rewarded with a more joyful life.

Can you muster the courage to become strong at the broken places?

1 As quoted in Martha Beck’s “Finding Your Own North Star,” 1991, Kindle location 2117.

Join us in July!

Our workshop calendar is chock-full of lunchtime workshops, leaving your evenings free for family fun. Reserve a seat for State of the Markets, Diversify Your Wealth Beyond Your Business, I’ve Had It Up To HERE With My Lucrative Career, and/or our new Beat Back Boredom With FLOW.

We’re also holding our semi-annual investing webinar on Wed. July 22. Request an invitation by emailing Deborah Lovin at

We hope to see you soon.

David Geller

About the Author

CEO David Geller co-founded the firm in 1991 and led the creation of Behavioral Wealth Management. Recognized on numerous prestigious "top financial advisor" lists, David is an in-demand speaker for professional groups and JOYN workshops. His writings have appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Huffington Post.

Read More By David Geller >>

Join Us

When wealth advisors look and sound the same, how do you choose? A coin flip? Pick your neighbor? Why leave such an important decision to chance? Instead, join us at an upcoming workshop. Hear recent research, discover new insights, and experience JOYN’s transparency and expertise firsthand.

Get In Touch