Surviving The Midterms

By David Geller   |   October 24, 2018

Ok, let’s talk politics.  WHAT THE *&^%^*&!  It’s okay, let it out. Feel better? Good.

Because whether you are a Republican, Democrat, or Independent, there is a good chance you find the current political discourse, or lack thereof, to be frustrating and even depressing. Our elected leaders often seem more interested in winning at any cost than in working together for the common good.

We’ve all read the headlines and heard the speeches, seemingly designed to grab your attention and trigger feelings of outrage, anger, fear, and even loathing.  The more you watch the news, the more addictive it becomes.  Before long, you find yourself paying more attention to what is going on in politics than to what is going on in your own life.

How do you disconnect from the drama in DC, and shift your attention back to your present life? Back to building and maintaining close personal relationships. Back to creating more opportunities for flow experiences. Back to making a positive difference in the lives of others.  Back to discovering and living your sense of personal purpose.

You do so one step at a time.

The first step is to understand the difference between a Difficult Life Reality (DLR) and a Problem. A DLR is something you don’t like, but over which you have little or no control.  The dysfunction in Washington is a classic DLR.

If you want to move from helpless bystander to empowered participant, you must convert your DLR into a Problem.  In this case, the best way to do that is to shift your attention from the national to the local.  If you are frustrated and want to do something, exercise your rights as a citizen.  Vote for politicians who represent your values.  Contribute to the campaigns of politicians you respect. Join a community of likeminded individuals and canvass for the candidate or party of your choice.

Simply doing something constructive may help you feel better.

Getting involved, however, may not be the remedy to relieve your frustration, anger and fear.  If you fall into this group, consider implementing The Allergy Plan.

The Allergy Plan is JOYN’s three-part program to help our clients move from fear and anger to a feeling of being calm and centered and then to confidence.  It is called the Allergy Plan because we treat emotional challenges like an allergist treats allergies.

If you suffer from allergies, the allergist will often test you to figure out what you are allergic to. Once the allergens are identified, the doctor will encourage you to avoid them.  If you are allergic to milk and cats, the advice will be to stop drinking milk and get rid of your cat.

Like the allergist, we encourage you to think about what triggers you.  If you find yourself getting worked up when you watch the news or talk to your brother about politics, change the channel and tell your brother political conversations are off limits.

Once the allergist knows what you are allergic to, she will often suggest you take a series of shots to build up your immunity to the allergens you can’t avoid. In our Allergy Plan, we encourage you to build up your immunity to getting worked up over things outside of your control.  Immunity building techniques might include a regular workout routine, a meditation practice, journaling, hiking in the woods, taking your dog for a walk, listening to inspiring podcasts, or cultivating a sense of gratitude for all the good things going on in your life.

The allergist understands that despite your best efforts to avoid the allergens and to build up your immunities, you may still have an allergy or asthma attack. In those cases, patients are often given an inhaler to help them breathe or are told to go to the emergency room.

At JOYN, we also understand that despite our best efforts, sometimes we get worked up and have a hard time not letting our anger and fear overwhelm us.

In those case, we have our own emotional inhaler. Our inhaler consists of the following three emotional based tools: The Alternate Story, Illusion of Control, and Worst-Case Scenario.  Although each tool has a different approach, they all are cognitive based tools designed to help you move from fear to confidence, and to empower you as you focus on what really matters.

If you want to learn more about these tools, please give us a call or send us an email.

In a few short weeks, the midterms will be over, but America’s political dysfunction will continue.  Use the allergy plan to help you focus your time, your most precious resource, on what matters most to you.

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David Geller

About the Author

CEO David Geller co-founded the firm in 1991 and led the creation of Behavioral Wealth Management. Recognized on numerous prestigious "top financial advisor" lists, David is an in-demand speaker for professional groups and JOYN workshops. His writings have appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Huffington Post.

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