Why Me? (Part Two)

By David Geller   |   January 21, 2014

Why was I so fortunate to be born in America in the 20th century?  Why was I so lucky to be the child of two wonderful parents who not only gave me good genes but instilled in me the love of learning and the value of hard work?  Why was I blessed with natural abilities that helped me thrive in my professional career (but alas, prohibited a career as a shortstop)?  Why have I been so lucky to avoid a serious illness?

We often lament “Why me?” when faced with adversity. Yet, we rarely ask “Why me?” when we experience good fortune. Somehow, we feel as if we are entitled to all of these blessings.  We often fool ourselves into thinking that we are solely responsible for our success and good fortune.

But if we’re being honest, we know that is not true. We are only partially responsible for our success. We worked hard, made some good choices, and applied our natural talents to build a successful career. We have acted with integrity and caring to create satisfying relationships. We have done our best to be a good spouse, parent, child of aging parents and friend.

We certainly deserve some of the credit – just not all of it.  Because we have also been extraordinarily lucky.

Take a moment and think of five blessings in your life that are just good luck.  Can you feel a sense of gratitude arising within you for your good fortune? As that sense of gratitude builds, perhaps you also feel compassion for all those folks who have not been so fortunate or who have not had the same opportunities.

This exercise might increase your compassion for others, but chances are it will do even more for you personally because it is virtually impossible to be happy without developing a sense of gratitude and compassion.

So, the next time you feel the world is beating you down, take a moment to ask “Why me?” and think about all your blessings.

About the Author

CEO David Geller co-founded the firm in 1991 and led the creation of Behavioral Wealth Management. Recognized on numerous prestigious "top financial advisor" lists, David is an in-demand speaker for professional groups and JOYN workshops. His writings have appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Huffington Post.

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